Do you ever feel cursed? Like nothing is going right? You go from romance to romance only to suffer an end to the fairy tale? Are your kids disrespecting you? Are your parents the mom and dad from hell? Sometimes relationships can be unbearable, and we often don’t know what to do about it. Many of us just don’t see how we are contributing to the problem. We don’t see that we hold the keys to the gates of hell. The keys have a name: they are called Forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a tool that can disempower. It can take the power away from any hellish reality you could be living. Read on and follow the 5 steps below. Learn how to take your destiny into your own hands.

  1. Change your definition. – What does Forgiveness mean to you? It’s a bad word to many people, so it is important to correct the definition. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to be a pushover. It doesn’t mean it’s okay for someone to wrong you and they can do it again. It does not mean they were right and you were wrong. It does not mean you deserved it. It does not mean you must let that person back into your life. It simply means that you are stopping the pain. You are taking away the power that person has over your serenity. Forgiveness is something you do for you, not the other person.
  2. See what’s in it for you. Forgiveness is totally for you.  Forgiveness will enhance your life. Every time you forgive, you clear your heart and mind of negative energy. Negative energy clouds your mind. It blocks your ability to love. It taints your self-worth. The real you is buried under all that negativity. With each layer of negativity that suppresses you, the less of your real self you get to experience. With each block or layer you unearth,  more of YOU comes to the surface and that YOU is full of love, strength, wisdom, confidence, power, joy and much more!
  3. Don’t drink the Kool-Aid. I’m sure you’ve heard of the old saying, ‘Hate is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.’  When you refuse to forgive,  you refuse to give what is good to yourself. You pick up where that other person left off. When you do not forgive, the pain thrives.  The culprits planted a seed, and when you hate the culprit …you water and feed the seed.
  4. Decide you are worthy. Forgiveness is merely letting go of negative energy. It is that energy of dread you feel when you think of that person or persons who harmed you. That ‘justified’ feeling of hate, that ‘righteous’ feeling of anger, that’s it. That’s the energy that is doing you the greatest harm. If you keep it. it will keep you blocked from the blessings in life that long for you, just as much as you long for them.  But are you worth it? Decide that you are. Decide to clean your heart, mind, and soul. Do it today.
  5. Forgive every day. Forgiveness is the road to spiritual greatness. Look for people, places, and things to forgive. The more you do it, the freer you will become. Joy, love, abundance, and blessings will come your way in a steady flowing manner. Forgive your parents, forgive adult relatives, forgive siblings, forgive past loves, forgive employers, co-workers, etc…it’s like cleaning a closet. Clear out the negativity. Enjoy the clarity and the clean soul.

I believe if you follow these 5 steps you can lift yourself out of negativity and into joyful living.  But if you’re still feeling stuck, you can sign up for my Mind Mechanics Course here to learn more valuable ways to find the focus you need to succeed.

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Have you decided to forgive and live joyfully? Share your light in the comments!